Friday, December 5, 2008
I'm almost nineteen, and I've never gotten drunk, never smoked, never had sex, never been kissed, never even had a boyfriend. I wish my values weren't such a social stigma, but it's like I can't be considered a real person because I'm some sort of idyllic emotionless drone. I promise I have emotions. I can see it every time some guy hobbles by me, trips over me, drunk, in an effort to get to a girl who's easier or prettier, or enjoys drinking or something. I just want to find a guy who doesn't need to be a party girl. Or anyone, for that matter. Just one person who'll go watch a movie with me instead of wandering around alone at some party...
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man, i'll go watch a movie with you any day. don't feel alone. the problem is that the people who feel the most overlooked ARE the most overlooked because they AREN'T out at parties...therefore they never meet each other. :( but there are so many of us out there.
please please do not compromise your values. I'm an upperclassman girl who totally knows what it's like to come to college and feel like the values I hold dear are not appreciated or supported by the norm. Key word: the norm. You are not the norm because you are choosing a path of higher resistance that most people are not confident enough to take. Even though sometimes it feels like, why am I trying so hard, keep your standards high and I promise you, even though you may get frustrated and bitter at points, it will be worth it. I'm proud of you.
Hey, I'm 21 and I am almost in the same boat as you. There are actually lots of us on campus like that, but we're hard to find because nobody wants to admit that they don't fit the social norm and because we're probably not at Shooters on Friday nights. Don't give up your morals just to feel accepted.
Maybe go to parties less and talk more to guys that you meet in class or when hanging out with friends? I promise the guys you're looking for do exist. Trust me, I know. Because I'm a lesbian and I've met these guys without even trying/being interested (but yay, more fish in the sea for you!)
I'm feeling something like that, and I am a guy, and I can't even find anyone through friends and clubs and classes.
Maybe we should make a time for everyone who's interested in dating at Duke but can't sort through all the people that aren't to get together?
Meet people at Freewater movies!
if there are so many that feel they don't fit into the partying/shooters/binge drinking culture, why can't we do something about it? why can't there be parties for us? why do we have to accept the norm?
we don't have to.
what would change things? how could it be made better? we CAN take action against things we don't like.
Me too! And we definitely can do something about this. What, I don't know, but I like what "December 15, 2008 5:30 AM" and "December 19, 2008 1:21 PM" said. We just need to start something.
I've read the comments, and I know what you mean. I wish there was some way we all could take action and actually make something happen.
I'm 21 and though I drink (starting on my 21st birthday), I've never been drunk, never hooked up, never kissed, never had a boyfriend, the whole 0 yards. And I'm very cool with it. I'm waiting for a man who will be able to look me in the eyes with no fear. And I feel like that's something that's worth waiting for.
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